Todays an exciting day, as our Son and our daughter-in-law are at the hospital right now preparing to bring our first grandson into the world.

My wife has hardly slept all night as she awaits to hear the news of when he’s arrived, seems to be taking his time!

Then all the fun begins of diapers, feeding, crying, burping, smelling strange things, crying,  no sleep, sickness, crying, smiles, giggles, first steps, crying, and all the otherr things that goes with child rearing.

But how are we to raise our children?  Some say you should never let them cry,  but doesn’t that build up their lungs?

Some say you should give them everything that makes them happy, but doesn’t that create a spoiled self indulgent ego maniac, that no one can stand to be around?

Some say you should never spank them, but doesn’t that just create a person who doesn’t know how to change direction in their lives and that sometimes being told no turns out to be the best for you?

Some say your to be your childs best friend, then why did God give us parents, what good are they, best friends might give me advice, but parents help direct my life, stick with me my whole life, best friends tend to drift away.

Some say you must pour out only love, never make them afraid of you.

But doesn’t the bible say that fear is the beginning of wisdom?  Doesn’t fear cause you to respect something greatly?

I don’t get into a wrestling match with a bear because I fear it and have great respect for its power.

Same is true for parents, I feared my parents, not because they beat me, but because they were the authority in our home who could and would correct me.

I respected who they were, but they also poured out love for me, I knew they could be trusted,

My wife and I also raised our kids the same way, we instilled fear in them, we were the authority in our home, we would and did correct them.

But today, we are extremely proud of all three of them, who are grown up and very responsible for themselves.

If you want a peaceful home while your children are growing up, lay the groundwork with fear,  we never needed drugs to control them.

There are kids who do need certain drugs because of a real physical problem, but in most homes their children are on drugs and out of control  because the parents don’t have any control over their homes.

Their children have no fear of their parents, and so the only way a parent can get some peace is to drug their kid into a stupor.

Raise kids Gods way and not mans, and you’ll find peace in your home and a relationship with them that is joyful.