Some people wonder why they can never meet Mr or Mrs Right! They feel as though they are doomed to a lifetime of singleness.
First you have to examine where are you looking?
If your going to a bar you won’t have any trouble finding someone, but I can guarantee that the other person isn’t looking for the right person, they’re looking for a good time.
Thats why divorce is so rampant among bar shoppers, they may get someone, but after awhile the fun runs out and so do they.
In the Book of Ruth, She didn’t go to a bar to find a man, she let God bring her a man. For the Christian, if your going to the world of sinners to find a mate, your looking in all the wrong places.
Christian marriages that have lasted a lifetime have found each other in Church.
Guess where my wife and I met? You got it, in church. I wasn’t looking for a wife, we we’re only 15, but the weird thing was, when she and her family walked in, I saw her and I knew she was the one. Can’t explain it, but I knew.
34 years later I’ve realised I was insane, JUST KIDDING!!!!
Where do Christians go to find a mate? Where other Christians are, thats the point.
Ruth in the bible went to where other Christians were and God brought her a husband, a good man with a good heart.
They then dated to get to know each other, theres a new idea, you might want to know the other person and be sure they are the one that your suppose to marry, its a new revolutionary way of doing things, but it works.
Todays culture jumps right into bed and then asks for their name!
Ruth is assured by God after much prayer that he is the guy, and so they get married, another novel idea for todays culture.
Ruth and her new hubby then come together and consummate the marriage, and they have Gods blessing because they did it Gods way and their marriage lasts a lifetime.
Thats romantic, thats what God endorses.
After the ceremony, your now free to have it hot and heavy and often, and God blesses it, thats how he designed it, he’s no prude, he says after your married, HAVE A GREAT TIME TOGETHER!!!!!
In the book of Song of Solomon, theres a manuel for love, but it warns us not to open love until your ready, and God says we’re not ready until after your married.
But after Solomon and the Shulamite woman were married, man did they enjoy each other, and according to the book, they enjoyed each other Every Where!
The banquet hall, out in the vineyard, in the woods they found private time and in a private place they enjoyed their love, God never confined us to the bedroom, but he did say it was private between husband and wife, we’re not to be a side show.
God wants us to be romantic for a lifetime, husbands and wives doing everything in their power to bring the other person enjoyment and fulfilment.
Romantic love is not selfish, your not to expect enjoyment for yourself, your always looking to bring your spouse enjoyment.
Romantic love isn’t nagging, NO ONE LOVES A NAG !!!!! Get it? You want your marriage to grow cold? or perhaps kill it altogether? Just nag your spouse over something, how they dress, what they eat, their hair, their weight, nag nag nag, and I’ll guarantee you, your spouse will look to greener grass!
Romantic love accepts each other for who they are, in other words, while you dated, you had time to know what your getting, don’t try to change each other.
You better love them just the way they are or don’t get married.
Ladies, your boyfriend ought to know exactly what you look like without makeup!! Now there isn’t anything wrong with makeup, if the barn needs painting, well paint it!!
But don’t bring a huge surprise to the bedroom on your wedding night, it may be your last night, through him running or dying!!
If your a woman who loves to wear the pants in the family, let him know, he might want one that wears a dress but let me warn you, romantic love is a marriage where both of you work together and support each other, talk things out about decisions.
Thats one of the mistakes I did for years, I would move in a heartbeat without talking to my wife, and I made some bad decisions, I needed her input and I wasn’t allowing her to be a part of that most of the time.
I know from experience that a good marriage is one where one doesn’t run over the other, but instead lets them be an equal in everything.
Men if you do that, she won’t have a problem with you being the head of the home, because she’ll respect your ideas and will listen especially if she knows that you won’t do anything that she wouldn’t approve of.
As a pastor friend and myself move forward with our plans at starting a church, I want my wife apart of what we’re planning, and I want her support and I also want to know what she’s uncomfortable with.
Romantic love makes a great and life long marriage and it is what God has ordained.